Get on her level. Either squat down to her level or pick her up so you can look her in the eye.
Be clear. State your message clearly and simply. Your child will zone out if you harp on topics too long.
Follow through - quickly. Don't make threats or promises you won't keep.
Reinforce your message - follow up your verbal statement with other kinds of messages. When you say "eat your lunch", show her you mean it by sitting on the table yourself or eating beside her.
Give warnings - before you try and take her away from a very enjoyable activity, let your kid know that you're leaving in a few minutes.
Realistic instructions .
Motivate.
Model good behavior.
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